10 ways to be happy!

Last Saturday, the radio DJ talked about 10 ways to be happy.

Note: Comments below each points are my own views.

1) Throw away or give away things that you don't need.
I guessed that means living in a good and healthy environment. So...don't keep junks under your bed!

2) Exercise
We need to feel good about our own body, staying in shape and good health keep us away from sickness and aches.

3) Keep a photo album of good memories
Reminds you of some happy times which you might have forgotten over the busy work schedules.

4) Breath deeply, at least 10 times a day
Most of us has forgotten the right way to breadth, we are either not inhaling enough oxygen or exhaling enough carbon dioxide. Deep-breathing helps in handling depression, anxiety, and stress-related disorders. Check out this link for more details.

5) Stay in touch what the young people are doing.
Having a same hobby or have a common topic with the young people helps you stay young at heart!

6) Forgive
Bearing a grudge is a torture! It affects your heart function and wakes you up in the middle of the night with kicks and shouts! Forgiving others or yourself, frees you from anger, sadness or guilt, it helped save or even strengthen a relationship. Don't let sisters, best friends or mother and children become enemies!

....hmm.... I forgot what are the other 4 points...

haha...so here are my own points:

7) Decide to be happy.
A decision to be happy reminds us to stay positive at all times.

8) Accept and move on
Some things cannot be changed by our own effort, whether you learn a lesson or cannot find an answer to it, or when you are badly hurt. There are times where we have to accept the fact and move on with life. Don't pity yourself too much that you live in sadness, regretting over things not done or digging for answers that has happened long ago! Stay in present!

9) Don't be Calculative
Don't count if you gain more or less from your love ones. If you start to be calculative, it is complicated, frustrated, hurting and never ending arguments. Make up your mind, if that is who you want to love, love with all your heart! And towards your family members, don't be a miser.

10) Help Others
Helping others means helping yourself, when you see the happy smile on their face, it touches your heart! But helping others doesn't mean you have to expect any returns. There are cases where you gets lots of complaints, nagging, scolding and lots of trouble too... but deep inside, you feel good to have the ability to help make someone's life better.

Haha... I only managed to achieve 4 out of 10....how about you?

why dig?

"sometimes thing in life is not meant to be explained in depth as it can get rather complicated. When that happens, it is wiser to accept thing as it is. Nonetheless, the enigma of life gives us enough reason to feel positive about it." - Equinox

I have a friend who used to call me once in a while, I enjoy talking with him as we do have some common topics but whenever he started talking about a common friend and things that happened in the past, I felt sad for him. His time seems to have freezed; he is still borthered by things that happened few years ago. I also felt disturbed, how can I remember those details? I even suspected he called me just to ask about her??

Maybe collecting bits and pieces of clues helped him understand more and eventually find his answer....but I looked at it differently. There is no answers for everything in life and when you think you found the answer, it might not always be the truth, so why dig so much?

What I do is don't try too hard to understand things that I don't. I have to admit, it took great pain and lost to come to this, all I can do is to let go... to forget and to forgive...or you call that giving up... just move on and someday I might see things in new lights.